Category: the Rant Board
Yesterday my family and I went out to eat. My aunt came to pick us up and she was in a bad mood. Lately she has been like this, and it's never turned out good, but yesterday she just got the best of me. So we're in the car and after several familiar arguments, we go drop my grandma off at the beauty shop. She didn't want to eat out, because my aunt was like this, and my aunt did not ask her either. After this was done, my aunt asked me "Do you have money to go out to eat?" I say no. She say, "Well why did you come then?" Keep in mind she's my aunt telling me this! Then we're on our way and my aunt and I argue and argue because she doesn't think i care about myself, when in reality, she's much worse because she overworks herself to death! So anyway, we go out to eat and her grumpiness still kind of contaminates me. Then we get home and they are leaving again, my grandma was still at the shop. Of course, there was a lot more to it but the main point is I felt like a noone next to her. So then we get home and i ask my aunt to turn off the tv, since I am tired and want to go to sleepl. Then she says, "well you know your granma's going to be mad." Then I say "But it's loud and I want to sleep." I ask my brother to turn it off but my aunt says "no let's go! Now you know how we feel when you're on the phone at four in the morning!" And they leave, and the remote is nowhere to be found. So I turned it off manually and went to my room. It always seems as if my opinion doesn't count, and my aunt has always been the type of person who bosses everyone around, and tells us to do what we are told and ask no questions. Then later when I'm telling my friend about this, mad as hell, especially about the money, she interveens and says "we never ask you for money," when I know good and well that's all she seems to want. She wants everything paid for for her because she has a nonworking husband, well he works but doesnt give her anything, but anyway she just seems to think that because I'm blind, my opinion doesn't count! I am sick of my family treating me like a nobody, and constantly reminding me of my blindness as if it is their advantage! But mostly i am angry with my aunt for trying to make me and my grandma look like two lesser authorities! I'm getting to the point whre I dont care what anyone else thinks and I'm going to do whatever I want! What do you guys think?
My aunt and I had a lot of problems about my money and her. For years she lied to me about how much I was getting. She said that I got only 188 dollar for SSI. I one day called SSI and found out that I ot 615. She was informed of this and got mad cause i knew she had lied and so she took my cell away for a couple of months. Then when I was eighten, she told me that I could keep getting 15 dooars a week for allowence and the rest could go to her or I had to pay 300 for rent. I fot with her and we settled on 250 or me being homeless. I was only home on the weekends. I soon found out that she was stilling money out of our joint account. I could do nothing at the time because I had no one to help me. No one to let me stay with them or help me ge an apartment or anything. The town i livd in was small. I finially mooved and before I left she took a couple of hundred out of my account for a trip she took. Allong with this she told many lies about me and would nake me pay ten dollar in gas money to take me to the store of two miles away for personal items, witch I had to wait for a good time for to go. Like usualy two weeks to two months later. Any time I went to the store i had to know what I wanted before I got in the car to go. That was what I got no looking arround or getting anything else. If they could they would take money and get it for me leaveing me at home. Then any time i spent money on anything I got griped at. But it was ok fo rme to buy hundreds over the years on them but not my friends. I wasn't aloud to talk on the phone that I payed my own bill of at night or longer then fifteen minutes with out getting yelled at. I also wasn't alloud to go on family trips. Their wasn't room for me. I had to stay at my abusive, drug using fathers house. By the way he lived with his mother witch was the only reason why I didn't get the hell beat out of me. Except for a few times of being pushed, or yelled verry cloosely to my face or even practicly locked up in a room. That is a nother story. Any little thing I did or was thought of doing was publitizd to the entire town family friends my school and so many more people. Even if the story wasn't true. Everything was my fault. My family would have b parties for my younger family members, witch i never got to go to because I was allways at school. But the one weekend i was going to have a Bday, I couldn't have one because ONE SINGLE cousen couldn't come. I haven't had a Birthday party since I was thirteen. I am going to be tweenty this Nob. I alwasn't aloud to include myself in conbertions. I wasn't smart enough to understand and plus it was between them not me as i had been told. I have been caled many names, bitch was the most cerent. And to think my mothers last dieing words were for my aunt to love me like her own. I came out better then her own. I graduated high school without any kids. her son dropped out became a drunk and druggy. almost got his kids tooken way for abuse adn her daughter got nocked up nad the guy left her, his parents wants nothing to do with the now eleven years old. But for some reson i am not as good as any of them. I come after the dogs, afercan grays and stray cat and this I don't asume, for I have beem told. So yes Sweety I know and understand what you mean. No I wasn't beaten everyday or starved or much worse, but I was loveless and that hurts as much and even more them anything.
Damn, that's harsh. Yes, that is a lot worse.
MQ, if it's okay for you to keep them awake by being on the phone during the night, it's just as okay for them to keep the TV on. Also if your aunt is like that all the time and you don't want to have to put up with her behaviour, don't spend any time with her. If you are not with her, she cannot treat you badly.
Dang Nicky that really has to be hard!
No, the thing is, she seems to think that she should have more authority than any of us! It's not just about me, it's about my granma too, and this is not my aunt's house for her to boss us all around and do whatever she wants but noone else can have any opinions, it shouldn't be like that! It always seems to be about her, and noone else is treated fairly in this house! Even my grandma is getting frustrated with her, and it's not really like we can help being with her because she lives here.
We had an aunt of mine that had just gone threw a devorce and moved herself adn two grand sons with her. It wasn't easy. She thought she was the boss and always fot with everyone. But you had to relize that she was for the first time in years like almost fourty years liveing in some one esles home. And her and her X did nothing but fight those entire years.She has her own home and her grand sons are in Germany with there parents who are in the war and she is still trying to gather her self with no help from our family. She still has anger ishues and everyone in our family would much rather chew her out for every mist step then to look the other way and go on with their own life. But no my families favort thing to do is get invalved wear they are least wanted. I had to learn durning this time that it is never easy to live with some one else or have them live with you. All needs to give and take a little. Do relize that you can't change your aunt or any one else but what you could do is change yourself. Instead of doing what ever to cause more anger think of a way that you could go about it that makes it seam as if your not thinking all about you. IDK people don't ever seam to relize how things really came out or was taken unless they are the ones watching not acting. Its hard to see the hold picture when your in the frame.
Yeah that's true! But my aunt needs to realize that my grandma isn't making her pay rent or bills or anything! My grandma is saving her a lot of money by letting her live here! my family's not much the type for getting too involved in things, I just hate the way my aunt acts and how she's always in a bad mood and everything else. One thing is, she is diabetic, so that may have something to do with her constant moods, but yeah.
on the phone until that early in the morning?
Keeping everyone up?
Gosh